So many of us dream of a big break. But some people let a life-changing experience slip by.
Any major career decision is bound to be daunting, should you pass on what seems a "once-in-a lifetime" opportunity - or bite the bullet and go for it? Experts recommend that you consider the following eight points. If you can answer "yes" to most of them, it's probably the right thing for you:
*Does this opportunity fit in with your life's goals and ambitions?
*Would you regret it later if you decided not to take up this opportunity?
*Do you believe taking this opportunity will make you happy in the long term?
*Would you feel resentful if you saw someone else making a success of what you've rejected?
*Have you investigated it properly - i.e. are you sure this is what you want and not just a whim?
*Does the opportunity excite you?
*Can you imagine yourself still doing this kind of thing in five or ten years time?
*Draw up a list of pros and cons. Do the likely advantages of taking up this opportunity outweigh the likely disadvantages?
MAKING OPPORTUNITIES
Deep down, everyone harbours a secret wish or ambition. To find out what your goeal is, ask yourself wht you will do if you didn't have to work for money.
Set realistic targets to achieve your goals: Perhaps a target for the end of the week, then the end of the month, the end of the year, three years and five years.
Once you've decided what you want, make a start straight away. Just one phone call could be enough to put you on the right path.
Remember: you have to find opportunities - they won't come to you.
If you a re setting up a new business or looking for work in a particular field, the most important thing is to let people know you are out there. Phone or sent mail shots. Don't feel embarrased - people will be impressed by your courage and determination.
Believe in yourself. Have courage in your convictions. If you believe you can do something everyone else will. Try not to worry about what other people think. Drawing comparisons between yourself and other people will only hold you back from doing what you really want.
BE MORE ASSERTIVE
One of the best weays to curb harmful stress is to speak up for yourself - even if it menas appearing sloppy at times!
AVOID PANIC
Is the matter really that urgent or important? Too often, we are caught off guard by a sudden request, but these are often better left for a while - and dealt with in the right frame of mind. Next time, instead of acting hurriedly or giving your answer on the spot; try saying: "Let me think about that, and get back to you in the next couple of houurs".
IF IT BOTHERS YOU - SAY SO
If someone is doing or saying something that upsets you, express your feelings but try to do it fairly. Always use 'I' messages such as: 'I feel let down when you are not here on time' or: I need you to ring me when you know you are going to be late.
DON'T SAYT SORRY
Many of us use the word "sorry" far too much - likie when someone accidentally bumps into us! It's all part of a 'victim' mentality. By all means, make an apology when apologies are really due, but do it from a position of strengh, such as 'I hope you can excuse me for...'
LEARN TO SAY NO
Saying "no" when you want to is not being selfish - it's an important part of standing up for your own needs and refusing to be used or taken advantage of. Always be straight forward and honest when you need to decline a request. For example, if the timing is off, say 'I'd love to help you out some other time, but right now I'm up to my ears in work, so I really can't.
